When I realized that holding on expectations from the past is what was causing the resentments for today,  I realized I had some healing to do. It just seems like it's a constant battle keeping your focus in the right place and on the right things. You see I am the master at blaming someone else for my misery. When I get my focus in the wrong place,  I have a flood of emotions to deal with. If I keep the focus on me,  I'm usually OK. My expectations of  marriage and how life with children was supposed to be was so deranged. One of the lines in the “Marley and Me” movie referred to how we were never taught how difficult life was going to be with children. I was living in a fantasy world of denial when I was in my last relationship.

Flood of Emotions Created From Resentments

I recently went to the new movie release at Christmas day called “Marley and Me.” I was surprised by a flood of emotions created from  resentments that were connected to expectations from the past. What a wild ride that day was. . It wasn't until I left the theater,  and recovered from all of the crying I did that I realized,  I was sad about the life I did not have. The movie painted the usual  picture of the perfect family having the white picket fence. As a single person who has been divorced for over three years now,  I found myself resenting that life didn't work out the way I had expected it to. Being single can be difficult at time because we are constantly having to work through the fact that we are alone. We may be living the single life  due to someone else's behaviors but,  the

Holding on to Expectations From The Past Caused Resentments Today

resentment & expectations
One thing that I have learned is that when I get hit with a flood of emotions I need to change my focus. Well at least when they are negative ones. Expectations and resentments fall into the negative category.  If I can just stop holding on to them and change what I am thinking about usually things get better faster.  I am thankful that I am aware of these emotional roller coasters when the hit. I am also protective of my serenity when these emotions begin to take over. I've fought to hard for too long as a single person to live in victory over these emotions.  I will never let negative feelings get the best of me. I would like to say that the “Marley and Me”  movie was excellent even though I was a little emotionally  stirred up inside, I realized it was more me than the movie. I mean when I looked around the full theater and I was really the only one balling his eyes out, that;s when I knew I was riding on negative emotions.
truth of the matter is that we are responsible for our own behaviors. When the emotions get stirred with resentments then we need realize that there is still healing that needs to be accomplished. My problem was that I was dwelling on the past and how life should have been rather than being thankful for how my life is today. It takes work to be a happy person when  your single. Being in the group  of divorced singles it takes a lot of work to keep our heads straight.