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Mind Games Related To Dating

In life the biggest battle we face sometimes are the mind games related to dating. What are some of these tricks that happen in this battle field that we need to be aware of? In the follow few paragraphs we will attempt to identify some of the struggles that go on in our thinking which greatly effect how others perceive or personalities. I remember when I was younger always trying to be someone that I really was not. It had a lot to do with the pier pressures of being a teenager. As I grew older many of my insecurities flowed right into adult hood. I remember in school wanting women  to think that I was really smart when the reality of my academic abilities was average.   I fell into the group of people who were labeled as the partier type. Even though I was not a regular user of some of the substances that many used regularly, I portrayed  myself to be a druggie. These facades flowed into every area of my relationships with others including the games we play when going out on dates.

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These are just a few of the dating mind games that are specifically related to my own personality. I have several others that I could have shared but I am feeling like a fake at the moment. As I get older I am realizing that I have nothing to really hide of be embarrassed about. No one really has their act together. If I am able to live by the principle of just enjoying today and celebrating that I was made to be exactly who I am, then life is good. Maybe if I could just be honest with someone that I am dating they would like me for who I am and I wouldn't have so much negative energy to try and cover up. 
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Dating Mind Games

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Here are just a few examples of dating mind games that I have played. As I was relating my experiences to the truth about who I am I have realized that writing about my self is very helpful in understanding who I am not.

1)Presenting ourselves to be neatly groomed all of the time
It's not a regular occurrence for me to get up on the days that I have off and be perfectly groomed within a few minutes. Usually I will parade around half dressed for at least an hour before I brush my teeth or comb my hair.
2)Taking the lead when in actuality I generally am a follower
Due to reading many articles where women share about qualities that they like in a man one of them was that women like men who take charge. Often times I would portray myself as being the type of person who plans things well and can naturally lead.
3)Creating the appearance that I am wealthy
I can honestly say that on paper I am rather rich but the reality of my life is that I generally live pay check to paycheck. This is because I am part owner of some real estate that I boast about but presently do not reap any benefits from. One day the investments will yield a fine reward either for me or my children but for now I really do not see any profits.
4)Being well studied, somewhat smart, and up on current events.
Often times I would purpose to read and study current events by reading news papers and studying the news just so I could have the appearance of keeping up with things happening in the world. The truth of it all is that I don't give a flip about these things. I would just do it for conversations sake when dating.
5)Coming  across as being confident when in reality I am insecure
This is one of the biggest masks that I put on sometimes. In real life I usually have a co dependent type personality. I have difficulties making a decision without someone else's input or approval. web.