Boredom: It seems that many of the struggles we deal with as singles are related to the choices that we make. If I am bored one thing that I have learned is that there's a good possibility that one of my friends may be just sitting around doing nothing too. A phone call or two can usually get me out of the house and connected with a friend. I had to learn how to pick up the 5,000 pound phone and reach out to others in my boredom  Sometimes we just talk on the phone and other times we will go to a movie, take a walk or go shopping.

Making Decisions: This is an area that I have had difficulty with because as an adult I married at age 20 and was with someone until the age of 43. Therefore, for twenty three years of my life I shared the decision making process with someone else. I can see now that I have co-dependent issues. Never the less, the way that I overcome struggling with making decisions, as a single person, is that I have at least three or  four friends that I can trust who I share situations with where a decision is necessary. I just have to set aside my pride and remember that wisdom is gained through others experiences and knowledge.

Dating: Last but not least is the question of weather or not I should date or not. I personally have decided to keep all friendships with the opposite sex on the level of brother and sisters. I do however enjoy interacting with online dating services just for fun. The struggles related to dating are dealing with past rejection issues and the baggage that he carry from one relationship to another. My heart has been torn several times and the wounds are deep. I am not so quick to enter into another round. I just surrender my life into the care of God's hands and trust that he will guide me, if I am to be joined with someone. There in lays the way that I deal with the struggles of dating.  The thing about dating is that you can only head in one direction, if you want to live a healthy life, and that is moving towards monogamy. One of the challenges is discerning weather this person is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. We must decide quickly because the longer we wait the greater the risks are of having yet another piece of our hearts torn away.

I hope that this has helped many  understand some of the struggles of being single and how to deal with them. Some of the ideas in this article have been born through many trials that I have faced as a single adult.
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The Struggles Of Being Single

I guess first and foremost we should identify the struggles of being single. Even though there are mothers and fathers who are not married have specific challenges that may be unique to their  situations, many of the difficulties we face will be the same. For instances,  weather a person is married or not,  food, cloths and shelter are basic needs that everyone shares. There are other situations that we all face which  reach beyond our physical needs.  Here is a list of what I see as areas of importance to address about living single lives.
Depression: Often times depression in singles is situational if you are able to identify some of what is causing it, there is help to be found. Here again it seems that the remedy lies in being connected with people. There are literally thousands of support groups to help those who are struggling with depression . No matter what the circumstances are there are 12 step support groups to help with depression. If  your challenges revolve around being over weight then join over eaters anonymous. If you grew up in an abusive home, where alcohol was prevalent, then try an ala-non family group. A quick search on the Internet can connect you with some options.
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How To Deal With The Struggles Of Being Single

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Taking into account our five topics related to singles struggles lets now look at some ways to deal with them.

Being Lonely: This can be over come by making the right choices in life. There are organized groups of people who enjoy interacting with one another. What brings them together is  sharing common interests. For instance, I have a good friend who is single and she  wanted to purchase a 1969 Mustang. She set a goal, saved her money and within several months purchased her dream. Soon afterwards she began to tell me of a car club that she had joined where all of the members had mustangs. She informed me that she decided to join the group so that she could meet people and have something to do other than hang out at home all of the time.

What Are The Struggles Of Being Single

As I ask  myself this question, “what are the struggles of being single,” several things come to mind right away.  Here is a comprehensive list of five  things that I feel are common to men and women, weather married or not, who are single.

Being Lonely
Depression
Boredom
Making Decisions
Dating
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