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What My Kids Think About Me Being Single

It's funny that my children all think that I should be with someone but yet I am content with being alone.  I didn't start thinking about what my kids thought  about me being single until my daughter began to play match maker. What I mean is that she keeps dropping me little hints about a particular friend that she thinks I should marry. This led me to believe that somewhere inside of my daughters mind she has some reasons for wanting me to be with someone.

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1)The woman that she encourages me to be with, by saying,  “dad you should marry her” is a real winner. As we all know,  good people are hard to come by. Especially someone that our children like and who we could spend the rest of our lives with.
2) I think that because my daughter loves me so much,  deep down inside, her hearts desire is for her father to be happy. She really knows that the last relationship that I was in was a very difficult one. So difficult that it became a very abusive situation in a physical way. I mean,  I was physically hurt on more than one occasion.
3)Maybe she feels a little guilty about how the last relationship ended that I was in.  Here's why this is a possibility. Just prior to my second divorce,  my daughter and her step parent got into a huge blow-out fight. She then refused to ever come to the house again and also would have nothing to do with the person that she labeled as “being crazy.”
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A few reasons why my daughter thinks I should not be single

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A few reasons why  my daughter thinks I should not be single

I'm not so sure that she really thinks that I should be married but my daughter obviously has a reason for her actions towards me. Here are a few possibilities of why she may be saying that I should get married or not be single.

Should I care what my kids think about me being single

I suppose that it would be a considerate thing for me to care what my kids think about me being single. But the truth of the matter is,  I have to live my own life. I know this may seem a bit selfish but hear me out. They are all older now and have their own lives to live. The only time that I really get to see them is when they are not busy with work, boyfriends or enjoying what they really want to do in life. I mean, I'm sure that my children want me to be happy and they all know that I am perfectly happy being single. Kids are funny though because,  I do remember that fourteen years ago, when me and their mother divorced, my oldest daughter longed for us to get back together again. Well anyway, my point is that I must enjoy my life with my grown children and apart from them.
If I sounded as though I am not compassionate towards my kids because I am not concerned about their view of me being single,  be assured, “I love my children a lot.” Actually,  I'd be a lonely person without them in my life.  It's somewhat  like a joke between my daughter and I when she expresses that she thinks I should marry my friend. Here's an example of a how a conversation might go.

“Hey honey did I tell you that I am going over to a friends for Thanksgiving?”

    “No dad you didn't. Is your friend Candy going to be there?”

“Ha ha, I told you I am not interested in getting married right now silly.”
     “well dad you know she is meant for you, I really think you should marry her.”

It's all a bunch of fun that her and I have with each other about this whole being single thing. I am glad that I can laugh and joke with my kids about my situation and theirs.